Senior year is filled with college and scholarship applications, tours, decision day, luncheons, graduation, and so much more! It feels like just yesterday they were starting preschool, and now high school graduation is over! Soon they are off to college, many miles away, and a new journey begins.
This is an exciting time, but let's be honest, parents – it also brings a lot of questions. We wonder: Is my child emotionally ready for independence? Are they prepared academically? Can they manage their finances? What social-emotional and academic supports are available on campus? Will they make friends? What if they get homesick?
These are common questions we ask ourselves, and the transition to college can be particularly challenging for students as they adjust to independence. This is why maintaining parental involvement is essential for their overall well-being and success. Although parent involvement for college students is often frowned upon, it is essential for students who struggle to balance independence and attachment to their parents. The significance of family support is especially imperative during the first year of college. Continued connection to parents in the new stage of life requires renegotiation of how much parents are involved and the type of involvement needed during young adulthood. It is important to establish balance between providing the necessary support and the space for college students to become self-sufficient.
The ultimate goal is for students to be socially and emotionally healthy, academically successful, and develop independence. Here are a few tips on how to support them in achieving that:
Academic Readiness
- Time Management: Encourage your child to create a study schedule and prioritize their coursework to stay on top of academic responsibilities. Avoid unnecessary phone usage during this time and minimize distractions to maintain focus and effectively manage time.
- Promote Campus Resources: Remind your child of available academic support resources, such as tutoring centers, study groups, and academic advising.
Financial Management
- Teach Budgeting: Work with your child to create a budget and discuss financial skills such as saving, avoiding debt, and understanding credit.
- Monitor Spending: Whether they worked over the summer to save money or you will send them an allowance, help them create a monthly budget to track their expenses and manage their finances effectively.
Social-Emotional and Academic Support
- Stay Informed: Encourage your child to explore and utilize campus resources like counseling services, wellness centers, and peer support groups.
- Promote Campus Involvement: Encourage participation in clubs and organizations that offer social support and build a sense of community.
Making Friends
- Support Extracurricular Activities: Encourage your child to join clubs, sports teams, or other campus groups to meet new people and build friendships.
- Attend Orientation Events: Suggest they participate in orientation activities designed to help new students connect and form friendships.
Homesick
- Maintain Regular Communication: Schedule regular calls or facetime to provide emotional support and a sense of connection to home.
- Encourage Campus Involvement: Involvement in campus activities can help distract from homesickness and develop new friendships.
- Occasional Visit: Arrange for them to come home during major holidays or plan a visit during family weekend or special events to show support. Too many visits home can make them more homesick.
How can I balance staying informed and involved while allowing my child the space to develop their independence?
- Respect Their Space: Give your child the freedom to make their own decisions and mistakes, allowing them to grow and learn from their experiences.
- Encourage Self-Advocacy: Teach your student to resolve issues independently and provide them with guidance. Intervene only when absolutely necessary.
- Stay Informed: Subscribe to the college newsletter to keep up with campus news and events to understand their environment and experiences. Note: Some institutions have a Family Connection Newsletter.
Give them and yourself grace as they develop their wings to fly! College is a major transition, and your child is destined for greatness. By loving, guiding, and supporting them through this new chapter, you help them navigate challenges and celebrate overcoming those challenges. Remember, for every obstacle, there is a solution. Trust in their resilience and your efforts, knowing that your support is the foundation upon which they build their independence and success. Embrace this exciting time and cherish the moments as your child takes on their college journey. Your involvement remains critical, as it nurtures their growth and confidence in becoming independent young adults.
